I am an avid reader. For me gym time is reading time, so on the bike, cross trainer and running machine, and as I make my way around the weights, I LOVE to read! This is what enables me to read a book every single week, on all kinds of subjects … psychology, philosophy, business, … More What would YOU like to change?
I’m excited to share with you again today that a free global online event has been created to have this deeper conversation about being a conscious man — it’s called The Conscious Men Summit. My friends John Gray (Men are From Mars, Women are From Venus) and Arjuna Ardagh (The Translucent Revolution, Awakening Coaching) have … More How to Love Deeply
Hi , What does it mean to be a Conscious Man? What does he do? How does he relate? What does he value? How does he embody the greatness in himself, and inspire the greatness in others? Here’s a bottom line that many are considering … If men keep going the way they’re going … … More Be a Conscious Man. Here’s How to Inspire a Better World…
Hi, For the next 48 hours I’m running a free Kindle offer for my book The Book on Back Pain, which you can use to help you reduce ANY physical pain. Lots of people have used it with emotional pain as well, so whether you’re feeling back pain, arthritis, frozen shoulder, PMS, or migraines, or … More How to reduce pain in 8 steps – Tom’s free Kindle gift!
How often have you heard yourself saying, ‘A part of me wants to … move jobs, end a relationship, have children, go on holiday, etc.’, but another part of me is just too scared, busy, broken or confused? Maybe sometimes you feel pulled in several different directions, unable to make a choice as to what … More How to overcome an inner conflict
Imagine you were able to simply flick a switch and turn your motivational force up. Your motivation suddenly appears in full force and you experience a wonderful sense of inspirational energy. Sound a little too unrealistic? Well – how about first reaching out and moving an imaginary dial so that the intensity of your motivation … More How to increase your motivation
However you experience a problematic thought or feeling, in some way there is a need to objectify it as something outside of you. When people get angry they hit things, when they get sad they want to hold onto something or somebody. Often when people are confused they resort to writing things down so they … More How to change your perception of a problem
I was reminded at how often I meet people who think the answers to their problems are outside of themselves, to be found in more money, more possessions, or different relationships. … More How to access your unconscious mind
Often I work with people who are wanting to change behaviours that they feel are out of control, like anger, drinking, taking drugs or some other kind of addiction or destructive behaviour.
Working against these patterns by simply trying to stop them most often results in failure or at best short term relief. I usually start then with changing how the memory of the unwanted behaviour is stored away. When you recall the last time you engaged in the problem behaviour you remember it via your senses, so … what you saw, heard and felt.
In changing how you remember the behaviour we can alter its internal ‘pattern’ or programme. Here’s how you can do that now with an unwanted/problematic behaviour or memory of your own. … More Change your mind in 10 steps
The following steps are designed to help you take the easy steps needed to achieve comfortable relaxation. Ideally, take five minutes every day to relax, preferably at a regular time during the day (not after a heavy or evening meal) and repeat again whenever necessary. Remove any contact lenses/glasses, and loosen any tight clothing. Sit … More 10 steps to relax and reduce stress