Often I work with people who are wanting to change behaviours that they feel are out of control, like anger, drinking, taking drugs or some other kind of addiction or destructive behaviour.
Working against these patterns by simply trying to stop them most often results in failure or at best short term relief. I usually start then with changing how the memory of the unwanted behaviour is stored away. When you recall the last time you engaged in the problem behaviour you remember it via your senses, so … what you saw, heard and felt.
In changing how you remember the behaviour we can alter its internal ‘pattern’ or programme. Here’s how you can do that now with an unwanted/problematic behaviour or memory of your own.
First choose a memory of the last time you experienced the behaviour you want to change, and then work through each of the following…
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