I was reminded at how often I meet people who think the answers to their problems are outside of themselves, to be found in more money, more possessions, or different relationships. … More How to access your unconscious mind
Often I work with people who are wanting to change behaviours that they feel are out of control, like anger, drinking, taking drugs or some other kind of addiction or destructive behaviour.
Working against these patterns by simply trying to stop them most often results in failure or at best short term relief. I usually start then with changing how the memory of the unwanted behaviour is stored away. When you recall the last time you engaged in the problem behaviour you remember it via your senses, so … what you saw, heard and felt.
In changing how you remember the behaviour we can alter its internal ‘pattern’ or programme. Here’s how you can do that now with an unwanted/problematic behaviour or memory of your own. … More Change your mind in 10 steps
The following steps are designed to help you take the easy steps needed to achieve comfortable relaxation. Ideally, take five minutes every day to relax, preferably at a regular time during the day (not after a heavy or evening meal) and repeat again whenever necessary. Remove any contact lenses/glasses, and loosen any tight clothing. Sit … More 10 steps to relax and reduce stress
Follow the method below to quickly align your state so you can perform more confidently and calmly. Keep mastering, Tom.
There is an enchanting transformation between sleeping and waking. It is a fleeting moment as you emerge out of deep, relaxed slumber, before the demands of the day come tumbling in on your world. It is also a magical moment of pure potentiality that contains seeds of inspiration or solutions to that insolvable problem that … More How to feel happy 🙂
How angry do you need to get before you start to get yourself back in control? A client I recently worked with describes what happens for them when they lose it … T: What goes through your mind? What thoughts do you recognise? D: Killing, smashing the world up, anything, do you know what I … More How to stop getting SO angry
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